Analysis of the four psychological stages of emotional breakdown
Not all marriages are unbreakable. After the high temperature of love falls, in the face of real life, loving couples will also have all kinds of contradictions. If they are not handled properly, it will lead to the breakdown of feelings.
From a psychological point of view, “emotional rupture” goes through four stages: dispute, alert, rift, and rupture.
After the couple entered the cave house hand in hand, after the hot period, they entered the opposite period. If the contradictions were resolved in time, they would become disputes and entangled in disputes.
Generally speaking, disputes are manifested in leaks, such as quarrels, fights, and destruction, among those with low cultural levels and bile and bloody subjects.
It can be resolved through mediation, but it repeats itself afterwards, and the civil war continues.
Among those with high cultural level, mucus and depressive qualities, they are mostly manifested in internal depression. They are not arguing on the outside, but they are cold in heart, entrenched in heart, and mediation is not easy to take effect.
Second, be alert.
Accumulation of disputes, husbands and wives are alert from the gap, commonly known as “different dreams in the same bed.”
In the form of alert, fetishists usually conceal each other from property, income and expenditure, and externalists conceal each other’s dealings with the opposite sex.
In order to prevent the other party from grasping the handle and learning the truth, the two sides are alert in economic and social relations, and even personal career issues, future issues, etc., are also tight-lipped, layer-by-layer defenses are prepared to guard against each other like a theft.
There will always be a day of revelation.
Secret revelations caused more serious disputes, which increased vigilance; as a result, a vicious circle formed, and finally cracks appeared.
The fissures are manifested as strong dissatisfaction in emotions and mutual deviations in behavior.
At this time, most of the living conditions are separated; those without living conditions, even if they live together, are back to back, and the well water does not violate the river water.
The cracks are getting bigger and bigger, and the relationship is completely broken.
Couples with broken feelings have three main choices: first, divorce through legal procedures; second, considering various reasons, inconvenient divorce, they have to make up for life, endure the burden, and the relationship between husband and wife exists in name; third, broken love, can not be reversed,Just to torture each other and refuse to divorce, “hold him (her) and keep him (her) happy”.
This kind of drag is both foolish and immoral, and harms others.
Shaped in, then out.
The four stages of emotional breakdown, the first two of which are internal, are “causes”, which are generally samples of inner activities; the latter two are outside, “effects”, and are generally part of action.
Therefore, it is necessary to prevent emotional breakdown, adjust appropriately when conflicts between husband and wife occur, and resolve conflicts in the bud state.